10 THINGS TO EXPECT WHEN YOU’RE IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Dating Doesn’t Always Prepare You for a Long Distance Relationship. Here Are Some Things About Being in Ldr That No One Would Have Told You.

Long Distance Relationships Are Not Easy, but if You Are Willing to Put in Enough Effort, It Can Definitely Work. These Types of Relationships With Social Media and Technology Occur More Often Than You Think, So You Are Definitely Not Alone. There Are Many Ldrs That Work Very Well So Keep That in Mind.

Just Set Your Goal, Define What You Want, and What You Are Willing to Sacrifice. You Have to Be Realistic as a Couple. Does Your Long Distance Between Distances Have an Expiration Date? When School Ends, When Someone Finds a Job, When He Has the Means to Move?

When You First Get Into a Long Distance Relationship, It Can Be Exciting as Well as Overwhelming (and a Little Lonely). Here Are Some Things That No One Tells You About Long Distance Love.

You Get Connected to Your Phone

In Long Distance Love, Every Partner Attaches to His Phone. You May Find Yourself Keeping the Charger During School or Work, in Your Car and at Home. It Helps You in All Communication of People. Remember to Take Some Breaks and Enjoy Things Off-screen to Help Maintain Balance in Your Life.

You Have to Answer Strange (and Sometimes Rude) Questions
These Questions Can Come From Family, Friends and Strangers. “Are You Worried That He Will Cheat?”Why Can’t You Find a Person to Live With?””What Do You Do When You’re Horny?”These Are All Strange Questions to Receive and Answer. If You Can’t Find a Polite Answer, Just Explain That It’s of No Use to Them.

Jealousy Occurs All the Time

This is Common to All Relationships, but Even More Prevalent in Ldr. You Are Not Jealous of Random People Flirting With Your Significant Others. You May Be Jealous of That Other Couple Who Have the Right Relationship Personally, or Jealous of Your Partner’s Friend Who Gets to Spend All the Time With Your Love, and You Cannot.

When You Are Aware of the Fact That Your Partner is Hundreds of Miles Away From You, You Begin to Wonder if There is Something You Do Not Know About Them and Their Lives. It is Very Hard That You Do Not Live in the Same City So There is No One Who Can Tell You What Your Partner is Doing. Before Committing Yourself to Ldr, Make Sure You Trust Each Other Very Much.

Not Every Meeting is Magical

Separated Partners Appreciate Better Moments When They Are Together, but That Doesn’t Mean It Will Be Perfect Whenever You Meet Again. Sometimes Reunions Are Just Full of Debate and You Only Stay Out of the Trip Because You Have to. Then There Are Times When Your Time Together Goes From Expensive Dates to Nothing. You Guys as a Couple Just Sit Down and Do Nothing Special (and That Can Be Fine Too). Make Sure to Manage Each Other’s Expectations Whenever You Have Special Time.

Define Your Relationship From the Start

Long Distance Love is Unique in That You Are Expected to Speak Meaningfully About the Long-term Goal of the Relationship. This is in contrast to in-person Relationships Where You Can Casually Date, and the Conversation of Committing to Each Other Comes Later. If You Are Going to Live in Ldr, You Guys Almost Immediately Talk About the Future. Be Fair to Yourself and Your Partner. Explain What You Expect From the Relationship and Ask Your Partner to Do the Same.

Things to Expect When You Are in a Long-Distance Relationship

You May Find More Friends
Since You People Can Have Different Social Networks in Different Cities, You Can Meet New People Every Time You Go. There Are Also a Variety of Online Forums and Facebook Groups to Help You Celebrate or Lament in the Joys and Sorrows of Long-distance Relationships.

You Can Idealize Your Partner

When You Do Not See Each Other Every Day, the Chances of Idealizing a Partner Are Very High. You Don’t See Each Other Often, So You Don’t Notice His Shortcomings or Quirks if Your Partner Doesn’t Show You. Why is It Important? Well, No One is Perfect and Once You Decide to Stay Together, You Will Start to Notice These Little Things That Might Bother You. Examples Are Leaving Clothes Around the House, Leaving the Lights on, Forgetting About Closing the Door, Etc. So Better Talk Honestly About Each Other’s Quirks and Try to Keep Them in Mind When You Decide to Change Someone-person Relationship.

Relationships Are Difficult Without Physical Touch

In a Long Distance Relationship, You Do Many Things That Make Your Relationship Special, but Sometimes You Feel That Nothing Can Replace the Real Touch. It is True That You Can Watch Each Other on Video and You Meet Periodically. But Once You Realize You Can’t Get a Cozy Hug or a Sweet Kiss From Your Partner, Getting Depressed is Easy. This is Not Something Unusual and Hopefully, This Distance is Temporary. Sometimes Be Prepared for the Lack of Physical Touch to Bring You Down. It Helps to Think About the Positive Aspects of the Relationship and Eventually One Day You Both Will Be Together.

Misunderstandings Often Occur

Sometimes, Both of You Will Not Always Understand Each Other’s Messages. When You Communicate Primarily via Text or Email, Misinterpreting a Second Word Can Be Very Easy. If He Sends You Some Short Message, You Are Not Sure if It Means He is Offended, or Your Partner Has No Time, or Something Else. You Are Going to Have Periods of Doubt, but Remember That It Happens. Just Call Each Other on the Phone or Facetime, So You Can Understand the Correct Tone and Meaning of Your Partner’s Message.

There Will Be a Lot of Ups and Downs

Even if You Love 100% Head-over-heels With Your Long Distance Partner, Be Prepared for Lots of Ups and Downs. Sometimes You Are All in a Relationship. Other Times You Wonder Why You Are Torturing Yourself. Many Times You Wonder if It’s All Worth It. Temptations Can Come for Both Sides. No Matter How in Love You Are, You May Still Be Unhappy in Some Days.